What words would you use to describe your ideal romantic relationship? You could use words like “passionate,” “intense,” or “spontaneous.” You could even describe it as “affectionate” or “sensual,” depending on your mood. Whatever you say, the word “planned” probably doesn’t exist.
And yet, it seems our love lives are heading in that direction! Life is hectic, and always finds a way to make it hard to have fun. That’s why some couples make a sex schedule. Love.
How can you create your schedule for sex and love? Doesn’t that destroy the spontaneity of sex? What’s the best way to suggest this to your partner?
What is a sexual love schedule?
A sexual schedule is precisely that: a schedule for sexual intimacy. You and your partner set up on your calendar the exact days and times you will be sexually intimate. Don’t plan anything else for this time, and make sure you answer the phone. No one will interrupt you, and you will have time just for sex and love.
Why do people love sex?
Because we don’t have time…or rather, we struggle to find time for sex. I lead a busy life. I work five days a week, always go to the gym, enjoy traveling, and have a busy social life. Finding time for sex is hard, especially if you want to put all your energy into the act.
Doesn’t it ruin the fun?
Maybe you’re sitting there thinking that planning sex will take the fun out of it. “It’s supposed to be spontaneous!” I hear you exclaim. Well, planned sex may not be spontaneous, but if done right, it can still be the most amazing sex.
Think about it. You and your partner might decide to have sex on Friday night. Great! The whole week leading up to it, you know you’re going to have sex. You’ll be thinking about it all day. By 8 pm, you’ll be super turned on and ready to start.
How would you propose?
For many people, a lack of sex love can be a deal breaker. We don’t consciously decide that we don’t want to have sex or love. That’s how things work. That’s why it’s worth taking the time to talk about it with your partner… but how? If you want to set up a sex schedule with your partner, you need to sit down and talk about it in a neutral environment. Tell him that you want to spend more intimate time with him and that you believe setting up a sex schedule is the best way to go. Answer his questions and see what happens!
